Am I overreacting about MySpace??

Before my husband %26amp; I became married %26amp; became a couple, he had a friend who always socialized with because usually her boyfriend was a homebody or didn't want to go out. This friend of his was somewhat close because they had a lot of fun together. When I came along my husband %26amp; I spent so much time together then came in love. She texted him one day saying, "that ***** has you on lock lol". That pissed me off because I had to tell him to defend me. He's a nice guy so I couldn't imagine him telling her off for trying to diss me. In my opinion, she was mad because I "took her friend away" from her. I never once bad mouthed her because I didn't know her to do so. But she did it to me. So my husbad cut off their friendship. Its been about 6 months since she was around. Then last night while my husband was checking his myspace, she sent him a friend request. I told him I didn't care to add her. I do though. I noticed that he added her. I'm kinda hurt. Maybe jealous. Am I wrong to feel this?

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

In my opinion, anyone who has a myspace is looking for something or someone. It's a personal connection to "friends" that allows people their own "personal hiding space". I don't like myspace at all. I use to have an account, but really, what do yo need it for other than to stay in contact with old friends? Why does he want to stay in contact with her? He's married now, and should just need/want you. I asked my hubby to close his myspace account. He did, but then asked to open it again, which I let him do, but his only friends are me and his sister that he never gets a chance to talk to. Your spouse should do the same, in my opinion.

I don't think you're overreacting at all. You have every right to censor friends, but you must be aware of the consequences with such censorship. If you don't honestly talk about it with him, he may freak out, or go behind your back. Just remember, honesty is the best policy. Talk to him about your feelings.

I've been married only 10 years to my spouse. I know him like the back of my hand now, and can tell when he's lieing. You need to learn the same if you don't know already. THEN talk to him about it. Good luck.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

YES

i just add as many people as possible

and let me add you and him!

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

Grow up will ya.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

i shouldn't worry about it. talk to your husband and ask him to delete, but he has a right to be friends with anyone he wants

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

Your not wrong your husband is . He should not have added her

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

sorry

i didn't read all of your question

i find it hard to write big blocks of writing without paragraphs

but from the title i'd say

myspace

people over react about it sometimes

its meant to be a thing for friends and meeting new people

some people get way too bothered about it

:) x

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

Without real proof it's hard to say. Without Trust there's no real relationship for you anymore. I've been here (with the protests over 'innocent' emails (and better: "that one was spam"). Watch out if he becomes more obsessed with 'checking' the computer when you're busy elsewhere.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

Don't be hard on yourself.

If your husband knows what he's got then he should know he's lucky to have someone to care about him as much as you do.

You have every right to be a little concerned.

But don't let it interfere with your relationship.

Just enjoy what you have and be thankful for it.

Hope this was helpful. (:

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

You aren't wrong to be mad, but you made a mistake when you told him it was okay. Don't force him to be a mind-reader.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

It sound like a good natured joke to me. I used to say that to a guy friend of mine all in fun. That is sort of like telling a bride/groom "how does it feel to strap on the old ball and chain?'. I think maybe you have just sent your instincts into overdrive and have overreacted just a bit. Calm down, chill out and know that he loves you and comes home to you every day. My husband and I were able to maintain opposite sex friendships throughout our marriage because we loved each other unequivically and never placed ourselves in a cheating position with others because we went everywhere together. Being too overbearing and sensitive to the life he had before you could push him away.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

no, you're totally in the right here. your husband still wants to be friends with her, and there is little you can do to stop this, but make it clear that she needs to accept that you ain't going nowhere, and that she cannot ever have a hold over him. Talk to your husband, and hit the problem directly. xx

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

Threaten to cut of something else from his body if he doesn't tell that other woman to get lost.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

oh jeez! myspace is for people in high school first of all and secendly WAKE UP SHES TRYING TO STEAL YOUR MAN and he sounds like such a dummy that he would let it happen without noticing it,he dont need no close girl thats a friend that is you!!!especially if shes mouthing off about you,if he had respect for you he would quit that ***** just for that!i have a white bf who has mostly white friends some of which dont like black people but best believe he doesnt let them say anything about me!so stand up and lay the line down before they end up sleeping together or some ****!

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

Well you should be able to tell your husband the truth about how you feel. On the other hand, you don't want him to feel as though you're running his life (and you def. don't want him to start thinking that other girl is right about you!).

I suggest you tell him, you really don't mind if they are myspace friends, but that you still feel uncomfortable about the way she used to talk about you. Tell him you'd really appreciate it if he would take her off his myspace if she starts up the badmouthing again. Maybe now that you two are married she realizes you are going to be a part of his life, and there's nothing she can do about it, so she has changed her ways...

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

Tell your husband you trust him. Tell yourself that you trust him. You said that it was alright to add her. If it bothers you than talk to your husband and explain why you are upset. Men can't read us as well as we like. I am still trying to get my husband used to me after 7 years of marriage. The main thing is to communicate, if you don't be honest with your feelings than how are you guys supposed to know how eachother truely feels about something. Also is does help to explain nicely to his friend that it really bothered you when she made that comment about you and that you would appreciate it if in the future she was more respectful towards you like you have been for her.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

Congratulations to your husband for cutting off the friendship with this girl to preserve his relationship with you. Why did you husband add her? I would be jealous and I don't feel you are wrong for feeling the way you do. She has a lot of nerve contacting him. You need to talk to your husband about this. In my opinion, renewing communication with this woman opens the door for trouble in your marriage. Better to nip it now.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

I wouldn't dismiss anything from your mind, but I'd let up a bit. You should voice you're true opinion to him, maybe he thought "hey, I'd look more popular with another friend on my page" or something harmless.

I think their friendship is harmless because he cut her off for 6 months at your simple request. So it's like he threw her away because she offended you, his wife, that he loves.

She sounds like a *****, but she probably IS jealous that you stole her friend.. in all honesty, he sounds like a great guy!

Trust is a very big building block in relationships. If you start making false accusations, it could lead him to feel like he's "on lock" which would probably only push him closer to her.

My boyfriend has his ex added on his myspace. It's one thing to tell him not to leave the toilet seat up, but to tell him who he can and can't communicate with via e-mail is a bit extreme. Just make sure he isn't checking the computer contantly. My boyfriend checks his myspace like once every 3 weeks- so I know she isn't a main priority.

Good luck! Just keep you're eye out. Maybe visit his page and read the comments she leaves him. I think this is a great way you can "spy" and see if anything is going on. If she's trash talking you thru his comments, BRING IT UP TO HIM.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

no, you're not wrong to be mad. i would've confronted her myself after reading such a message. he should have more respect for you.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

I have a lot of friends who I have observed talk that gibberish about just friends and everyone of them if they didn't end up sleeping with the person, was sure trying to. I don't know about you, but me and my husband when we took our marriage vows, we said forsaking all others. I had some male friends that made my husband feel uncomfortable, no problem, they became history because I made the vow. I expect him to do the same for me. He shouldn't have a friend who means so much to him that he is willing to hurt your feelings for.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

No you are not and you should tell your husband clearly what you feel don't miss communicate with the person you have to spend your life with, be very clear and open to each other about your feelings.....never hide what you feel cuz one day you might just explode %26amp; your relationship will take the toll. Create a strong bond between you two which no third person relevant or irrelevant can affect.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

in my opinion if you are married you have no business having a myspace, facebook or any other page where you can network with "friend". that's crap. tell him to get rid of the myspace page. that's a way for people to cheat on the side. your husband sounds sweet b/c he at least asked you first but i still think it's wrong for married people to have myspace pages.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

You told him to add her and now you want to complain.I would've said hell no.You can't tell them one thing and mean another.You did it to yourself when you let him add her.Deal honey,or tell him you really didn't want to add her.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

I wouldn't like it either but not b/c they were once friends but b/c she said something negative about you to him. They were supposedly "just friends" and with that comes the understanding that one of them will one day find a girlfriend/boyfriend so she had to know that someday he would be someone nice like you.

I think friendships can be complicated sometimes though so have some grace with her. When my friends met their spouses, I was a little hurt b/c it meant that we wouldn't be spending much time together. After a while, you get used to it and accept it. She was having trouble doing that. Remember, she is the one with the problem not you or your husband.

Just remember that you and your husband are MARRIED and you have a bond that is more important than that friendship. Keep loving your husband, making memories and know that his friend is not going to affect what you have together.

Have you thought about contacting her yourself and letting her see what a nice person you are? Maybe she just needs you to reach out to her and you can let her see how wonderful you really are. Just a thought.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

You're not wrong...he is. I don't personally think it's right to have friends of the opposite sex when in a commited relationship/marriage. It just causes too many problems. No friend is more important than your partner/spouse/family.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

MySpace is a place for singles and a disastrous website for marriages! Just stay off the site and you wouldn't have these issues.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

yes you told him he could and now you're getting mad at him when he did. honestly it's been 6 months.forgive,forget, and read this ahttp://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

well you told him that you didnt care. now you say you do. you cant get mad at him for adding her, you can only be mad at your self for not speaking the truth to him. if it bothers you that bad, tell him. ask him to take her off...

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

I can't even understand why you took that text message as a reason to end their friendship at all. It sounds like it was a joke that expressed the fact that she misses their friendship... I see nothing to react to at THAT point... so communicating on myspace is no big deal either.

There is nothing wrong with your FEELINGS... but feelings aren't facts.... being jealous doesn't mean you have to react....

it just means that you have a feeling to deal with.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

Your not wrong to feel that way. This woman can be a threat to your marriage only if you and your husband let her.

Their "friendship" on Myspace (and I use the term friendship loosely) can only become a threat to your marriage if you and your husband let it.

His adding her as a friend on Myspace is nothing. Most people have hundreds of "friends" on Myspace that they don't know and do not / have not interacted with.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

I think you're making too big a deal over this.

If she wasn't constantly trying to undermine you, I think you overreacted way back when to a text message. That comment, if it was not a regular occurrance, is something MANY guys' friends would say. If that was all it was, it wasn't worth demanding that he "defend you" or that he cut off a friendship with her. And regardless of what you say about how you never once bad-mouthed her, i'm guessing that at some point in the whole demanding he defend you fiasco, you said some pretty unflattering things about her.

But regardless of all that, if you're going to play little games, telling him you don't care if he does something, then he does, you have no right to be all upset about it if he does something YOU said didn't bother you.

Am I overreacting about MySpace??

If she is respectful to you I wouldn't worry. If she is bad mouthing you all over the place and/or flirting or being too friendly to your husband I would kindly ask him to understand your point and remove her...myspace is trouble though for some...